I’m 45 years old and married to a lovely young lady for the last 18 years. My wife Kate is the best thing about me. Without her, I’m just a jerk, as you will find out once you’ve finished reading this.
We don’t have a family per se, but we do have two cats and a very large Great Dane/German shepherd dog. Kate will tell you I’m a big enough kid.
Why did you come to One On One?
Because I was tired of being out of shape and needed to get my poop in a group. Forty-five is a life-changing age.
Five years ago, when I turned 40 (happy birthday!), I was diagnosed with testicular cancer, the greatest cancer of them all. Seriously, it’s got a 98-per cent cure rate. If you’re going to get cancer (and why the hell would you make that choice?), it’s the best one to have. If it migrates through your body, it’s still considered testicular cancer because of where it started and is subsequently curable.
The tumour was removed, was found to be benign, and I began the visits to the oncologist. Once every three months I had a grown man touch my remaining testicle and tell me things were good. It was weird and yet reassuring.
The one thing that stuck with me was the statistic that he quoted to me: “If you’re overweight, there’s about a 30-per cent chance it will come back.” Well, hell, that sucks.
At 40, I was three years into my consulting firm and working my remaining jiggly bits off to make sure it was a success. I didn’t make the time to exercise. I realized that was a pretty stupid move on my part and got off my keester to get in shape. I make it sound easy, but it was pretty difficult to do.
What does your exercise regimen consist of? How often do you exercise?
Is this a trick question? Did you lose my schedule?
Have your views on fitness changed over the years?
Quite a bit. I’ve come to realize that it doesn’t have to be a ‘regime,’ but you do need to be disciplined. I also didn’t appreciate how much diet factors into it. And Kate has a degree in foods and nutrition. That started a few interesting conversations.
How do you fit exercise into your life?
I make time for it the same way most people schedule meetings. I put it in my calendar and make sure I attend. Having the flexibility to exercise during the day helps, too.
Why do you make time for fitness?
What? Is this another trick question?
I’ve found that, as I get older, it’s harder to maintain the same level of ‘intensity’ that I had when I was younger. It sounds cliche, but a healthy body makes for a healthy mind. I’ve come to realize that I need to work out in order to balance my life. Also, I’m petrified of not being able to climb stairs or having to lie down to pick something up when I get older.
What has been the most rewarding aspect of fitness for you?
This is totally vain, but I really like the fact that my friends have noticed I’m in better shape. It’s a big ego boost. Also, and feel free to edit this out, the sex life is better.
This might sound weird, but it’s been really good for me mentally. I’ve found that I don’t give up on tasks as readily as I used to. I’ve got more mental stamina to push through on tasks that previously might have been harder for me. I never really expected that.
What has been your biggest challenge?
Diet. Always the damn diet. Beer just tastes so good, you know?
That, and seeing the pictures of Sandra on the walls of the workout studio. It’s kind of intimidating. Her eyes follow you around the room.
What did your friends, family or spouse think of what you were doing?
Kate was really proud of me, which meant everything to me.
I didn’t tell my friends, I just let them notice. Hahahaha! Surprise!
What do you eat?
What is it with these trick questions?
When you fall off track with healthy eating/exercise, how do you get back on?
I look at it as a balance. There’s no ‘track’ per say, but I like to eat all things in moderation. As long as the exercise energy balances with the intake of food energy, all is good. That being said, Kate is an excellent cook and prepares excellent meals. She really understands the importance of a well-rounded diet.
What are your goals now?
Dano, my trainer guy, tells me most people have eight abdominal muscles. I would like to be able to see at least four of them someday.
If you could give advice to another person who was struggling with their fitness, what would that be?
Lay off the steroids. They make you angry.
This might sound stupid, but I would tell them to spend money on a personal trainer. Most people like to get value out of their money, unless you’re some whacked-out celebrity with more money than brains. Spend the money, and it will force you to find the value. Once you make that connection, it gets easier. Also, lighten up. It’s just a workout. Take it easy.
Any other comments that you would like to add?
Keeping fit isn’t easy, but it’s completely worth it. It’s supposed to hurt, but like most things it gets easier with practice.
Also, re-write Dano’s bio on the website so it’s honest. I don’t think that kid has spend a quiet night at home in his life.